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So, my previous post took me a while to write. It was done over a few week as my head was all over the shop. This post is a little more structured I guess you could say? Or then again, this is me writing it, so it probably isn't.
The real world is a scary scary thing. There are some good times but also some very bad times. The things we go through in life, makes us who we are. The struggles we go through strengthen us, and the good times we have put a smile on our face. Everyone has self doubt at some time in their life but sometimes, it can really affect you quite badly at times. The things that knock us down are supposed to make us stronger but sometimes you can only take the knock backs so many times.
Self-esteem is a term that is used to reflect someone's overall emotional evaluation of their own worth. It is a judgment of theirself as well as their attitude towards theirself.
Low self asteem, self blame and anxiety go hand in hand but unfortunately manifester until you end up in a complete state of not believing in yourself and thinking you're not good enough at anything. There are a number of things that knock your confidence and make you doubt yourself. However, when things are constantly happening, it can give really knock you, causing yourself to have no faith in yourself and your abilities. It could be anything from constantly getting told you're not getting good enough grades at school, to bullying, told you're too fat or too skinny. or being over looked at work for higher positions or jobs in general.
Health issues are also a huge contriubtion to low self belief. There are only so many times you can keep brushing something off your shoulder before you begin to believe that it might actually be yourself and your abilities that are the problem.
I know myself that my health knocks my confidence big time and anytime something goes wrong or against me, I put it down to the fact that I am not good enough or my health stopped it from happening. Work is a big one for me. I have always done my best to keep working through my health because it keeps me and my mind busy. There have been many times though that promotions come around, or an opportunity of some sorts that I don't get or even sometimes don't get given the chance to get. Everyone will have some sort of experience of being over looked at work or school or in life in general.... but how many times will you keep yourself in a position or place where you are knowinly
putting yourself in a position that it can and most likely will keep happening (no matter what you are promised). Or even something simple like trying to complete a shift but not necessarily being support by your whole team or even just struggling to complete it. There have been many of days where my health hasn't been great and I struggle to complete my regular shift. Sometimes I'll take a seat for a while and sometimes I will try push on. Either way, it knocks my confidence in my ability to still be able to work normal hours or even work at all.
Unfortunately, low self esteem happens within us all. We all deal with it differently and some of us will show it as being more vulnerable and others will act over confident to cover up being extremely unconfident in themselves. As with anything, we all have our own methods of dealing with things. Having that lack of confidence can have a huge impact on everything in life whether we realise it or not. It will determine how we see ourselves and our capabilities in different situations. All those times we should 'Just Say Yes' become no's and all those no's lead to further knocks in confidence and isolation. Although, sometimes, these situations that happen can lead to better things that you may not have gotten without. For example, you could stay in a place that really doesn't make you happy and keeps knocking your self belief and hope, but, it ends up giving you contacts and experience in life to make something happen that makes you happy and gives you confidence.
The people you surround yourself with can also really change your self esteem. If you are surrounded by people who don't believe in you and give you opportunities or just support you, then that will rub off on you and make you doubt yourself until it becomes unhealthy. BUT, if you are surrounded by people who love and support you and believe in you and your capabilities, then you will believe in yourself. People who don't make you happy, or support you or help you grow in yourself and life, just are not worth it. They're not worth getting upset over. They're not the people you need or want in your life. Don't let them put you down mentally! Take a stand and show them who's better than that and more than capable with anything they put their mind to. Have the last laugh. Keep your head held high because you are more than capable of doing it and are so totally worth it. - HAHA 'because you're worth it', makes me instantly thing of the L'Oreal shampoo advert!!
As usual, I'm saying all this stuff about keeping your head held high and not getting upset over people or things, but I do. Very much so. And over the next few weeks, I'll be pushed to the limit in trying to take my words into my head as good (or I hope as good) as I give them. As with all words and quotes in life, they are so much easier to say than they are to action and do. It takes practice... and lots of VERY strong mind power skills which can be very hard when your mind is not in a good or sensibly thinking place.
I don't actually know if any of this post makes sense or if it is just one big ramble of saying the same things with no actual point. But, it is stuff that needed to be taken off my chest and a subject that effects us all at one time of another and is one that is hugely affecting me at the moment. It's really not very fun when it does effect us strongly, but that is life and there is nothing we can do.
We have two options in life, to let people rule how our minds think, or to let our minds rule what people think. Is that even a good saying? Hmm... I'm not sure. It just came out my mind. That's the best I got right now!! HAHA
Well, I think that's going to be it for this post. If you think any of this was directed to you, about you or is what you think.... then it most probably was. If that shoes fits and all that jazz. Take a good long look at yourself in the mirror and remember that what you do or say towards someone else can have a really huge effect on someone and their life. Don't bully others, don't put others down or knock them back in situations time and time again. Be kind to one another, love and support people who love and support you and surround yourself with people who are good for you to have in your life. Your confidence says a lot about how your life will go.
Stay Strong
<3
putting yourself in a position that it can and most likely will keep happening (no matter what you are promised). Or even something simple like trying to complete a shift but not necessarily being support by your whole team or even just struggling to complete it. There have been many of days where my health hasn't been great and I struggle to complete my regular shift. Sometimes I'll take a seat for a while and sometimes I will try push on. Either way, it knocks my confidence in my ability to still be able to work normal hours or even work at all.
Unfortunately, low self esteem happens within us all. We all deal with it differently and some of us will show it as being more vulnerable and others will act over confident to cover up being extremely unconfident in themselves. As with anything, we all have our own methods of dealing with things. Having that lack of confidence can have a huge impact on everything in life whether we realise it or not. It will determine how we see ourselves and our capabilities in different situations. All those times we should 'Just Say Yes' become no's and all those no's lead to further knocks in confidence and isolation. Although, sometimes, these situations that happen can lead to better things that you may not have gotten without. For example, you could stay in a place that really doesn't make you happy and keeps knocking your self belief and hope, but, it ends up giving you contacts and experience in life to make something happen that makes you happy and gives you confidence.
The people you surround yourself with can also really change your self esteem. If you are surrounded by people who don't believe in you and give you opportunities or just support you, then that will rub off on you and make you doubt yourself until it becomes unhealthy. BUT, if you are surrounded by people who love and support you and believe in you and your capabilities, then you will believe in yourself. People who don't make you happy, or support you or help you grow in yourself and life, just are not worth it. They're not worth getting upset over. They're not the people you need or want in your life. Don't let them put you down mentally! Take a stand and show them who's better than that and more than capable with anything they put their mind to. Have the last laugh. Keep your head held high because you are more than capable of doing it and are so totally worth it. - HAHA 'because you're worth it', makes me instantly thing of the L'Oreal shampoo advert!!
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| Felt this was only fitting with the recent S Club 7 Reunion!!! <3 them |
As usual, I'm saying all this stuff about keeping your head held high and not getting upset over people or things, but I do. Very much so. And over the next few weeks, I'll be pushed to the limit in trying to take my words into my head as good (or I hope as good) as I give them. As with all words and quotes in life, they are so much easier to say than they are to action and do. It takes practice... and lots of VERY strong mind power skills which can be very hard when your mind is not in a good or sensibly thinking place.
I don't actually know if any of this post makes sense or if it is just one big ramble of saying the same things with no actual point. But, it is stuff that needed to be taken off my chest and a subject that effects us all at one time of another and is one that is hugely affecting me at the moment. It's really not very fun when it does effect us strongly, but that is life and there is nothing we can do.
We have two options in life, to let people rule how our minds think, or to let our minds rule what people think. Is that even a good saying? Hmm... I'm not sure. It just came out my mind. That's the best I got right now!! HAHA
Well, I think that's going to be it for this post. If you think any of this was directed to you, about you or is what you think.... then it most probably was. If that shoes fits and all that jazz. Take a good long look at yourself in the mirror and remember that what you do or say towards someone else can have a really huge effect on someone and their life. Don't bully others, don't put others down or knock them back in situations time and time again. Be kind to one another, love and support people who love and support you and surround yourself with people who are good for you to have in your life. Your confidence says a lot about how your life will go.
Stay Strong
<3
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